Kaitlyn, Minnesota

From Grief to Growth

When I became a mom, I expected joy, challenge, and growth, but I never expected grief to shape our family in such a profound way.

My husband, Forrest, and I have three children: Keeva, our oldest; Elling, whom we held for just one hour; and our youngest, Nelwyn. Losing Elling shattered us. It also changed Keeva’s world in ways none of us could have predicted. She was only three and did not have the words for the pain. She only had fear.

That fear quickly became anxiety about her little sister’s safety. Keeva watched Nelwyn constantly, terrified something might happen. We realized Keeva was not just grieving. She was trying to make sense of a world that suddenly felt unsafe. This is what led us to seek infant and early childhood mental health support.

“My daughter was diagnosed with PTSD before she even entered kindergarten.”

Kaitlyn

About 1 in 10 children under age 5 experience mental health issues

Believing in Babies Means Seeing the Whole Family

Keeva’s play therapy became a lifeline. With the support of professionals trained in early childhood mental health, she learned to process her emotions, build trust, and connect more positively with Nelwyn.

But the process was not simple.

Services were difficult to access. We were placed on waitlists. We had to rely on several nonprofits because so few providers were trained or willing to work with very young children who have complex emotional needs.

We also saw gaps within early learning settings. Teachers and staff cared deeply, but they were not trained in best practices for supporting children experiencing grief and trauma. Their responses sometimes unintentionally created additional challenges for our girls.

Families should not have to struggle this much to find support. Mental health services for infants and toddlers should be accessible, timely, and rooted in evidence-based practices.

“Early childhood mental health is not optional. It is the foundation for everything that comes after.”

Kaitlyn

We Are a Community of Believers

I share our story because many families are facing similar struggles. Thousands of parents experience loss, trauma, and adversity with their babies and toddlers. Too often, the systems meant to support them have barriers that make it even harder.

Nationally, about 25% percent of infants and toddlers have experienced at least one adverse childhood experience. These are not numbers. They are babies. They are children like mine carrying burdens far too heavy for their young age.

If we want children to thrive, we must ensure they have emotional support and stable relationships from the very beginning. That requires strengthening infant and early childhood mental health programs and the workforce that makes these programs possible.

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