This Motherly® survey found that many new moms feel unsupported, with 1 in 6 receiving no help outside their partner, 42% saying support was insufficient, and 60% feeling uncomfortable asking for help.
Rebecca’s take:
We need to let go of the myth of “maternal martyrdom.” Asking for help is not a weakness; it is a strength and a necessity. If you are part of a new parents’ circle, do not wait for them to ask. Show up with a meal, offer to hold the baby while mom showers, or wash a load of laundry. Parents may not know how to articulate what they need, but they are often overwhelmed, and simple, tangible gestures can make a world of difference.
We must also continue to advocate for family-friendly policies like paid family leave so that no parent is forced to think about returning to work before they have begun to heal and bond with their baby.
Why does this matter so much? Because parental mental health is not just about parents, it is also about babies. When parents are supported, rested, and cared for, they are better able to be emotionally available to their infants. Those early moments of comfort, responsiveness, and connection form the foundation of Infant and Early Childhood Mental Health. In other words, supporting parents is one of the most powerful ways we support babies too.
Modern parenthood was never meant to be done alone. Closing the support gap is not just an act of kindness; it is an investment in the mental health of the next generation.