My 9-Month Old and I are in a Music Class, but she’s Scared to Participate
Rebecca Parlakian is ZERO TO THREE’s Senior Director of Programs at ZERO TO THREE, where she directs a portfolio…
Stick with it. What you describe is quite common. While some children naturally go-with-the-flow and jump right into new situations, others are slower to warm up. They tend to be more comfortable with one-on-one play and can feel easily overwhelmed in a group. Another factor may be sensitivity to sounds. Your daughter may love hearing music at home, but in a class, the noise and movement of the other children may at first be too much for her.
The good news is that kids are very adaptable. It sounds like, while this experience may be challenging for your daughter, she is able to cope with her fears when given some time. Staying in the class is an opportunity for your daughter to learn how to feel safe in new situations and to find pleasure in new relationships and experiences.
Staying in the class is an opportunity for your daughter to learn how to feel safe in new situations and to find pleasure in new relationships and experiences.
Here are some things you can do to help her along:
- If possible, arrive at the music class early to give your child a chance to explore the environment without others around.
- Play with musical instruments at home and gradually add different sounds.
- Find ways for your daughter to spend time with children around her age so she can get used to being and getting along with others.
- Give her other opportunities to feel comfortable in social gatherings by attending other organized activities like play groups or story time at the library.
- When in new or group situations, follow your child’s lead. If she clings to you, help her explore from the safety of your arms or lap. If she needs a break, take a stroll around the room or go to a quiet area. If you give her the time and support she needs, she will soon feel safer to join the fun.
